Did you ever think you will find love online?
Sushmita: Finding love at 53? Absolutely not! I had completely closed my heart until my friends motivated me to try a new way of finding love, using dating apps. And so, I joined it and even had to face some nasty rejections. But then I found Rajesh.
How different is online dating from finding love around you?
Sushmita: It is quite different; finding love online means you have to find ways to express yourself. When you meet someone up front, they already analyse every part of you. But it takes time to know people online dating.
Were you putting up your perfect side while dating online or via texts? Or were you your true self?
Sushmita: I think I was my true self only because I had no idea what it was like to pretend! I had been with only one man in my life before I met my now husband. So, I didn’t have much experience in ‘dating.’ I believe putting up my true self helped me to meet the sweetest and purest man ever, my now-husband.
Can you tell us what your dating bio was about?
Sushmita: I had mentioned my likes and hobbies and had also mentioned that I had been married once. That’s all. There was nothing extraordinary written on my dating bio.
Is connecting over online dating apps as exciting as meeting someone in a physical space?
Sushmita: For me, it was a very new experience. Since I had never really interacted with anybody else but my ex-husband, it was quite a challenge to connect with people online. But it was thrilling too. And then, meeting someone offline is beautiful too. But the surprises that come with online dating are quite a lot.
What drew you to your partner online?
Sushmita: When I revealed my age and the fact that I was a divorcee, he spoke to me the same way as he did, before knowing this. There was no change in his behaviour. He had also mentioned in his bio that he was looking for someone to grow old with. And that drew me towards him enough to go for a long conversation. And then we met up over a cup of tea.
Did you come across any fake profiles or false identities online? Any tips to tell if a person is real or fake?
Sushmita: I didn’t really swipe many people so I didn’t encounter fake profiles. But as far as I know, the pictures on a profile can tell a lot about the person as well. Your instincts push you to analyse if these pictures are fake or not.
Was it love at first sight when you both met or did you take your time getting to know your partner?
Sushmita: Not really, we took our time to find love. We met several times, went for cups of tea and on several walks. Over time, our bond grew stronger as we confided in each other about our past, deepest secrets and fear.
Do you feel taking chances or a ‘leap of faith’ is very important to get to where you are right now?
Sushmita: Yes, taking a leap of faith is really important. I am 53 and I have grown up in a very traditional mindset but if I would have restricted myself, I wouldn’t have been happy that I am now. Taking chances can open you up to so many possibilities that you never know.
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