Being Single: “Whether it is love or arranged marriage, nothing guarantees eternal bliss” – Times of India

Does it annoy you when people ask why you are single?

No, I just find it amusing. It is interesting to see how my life, my freedom bothers some people so much.

Why do you think singlehood is questioned so much?

It is like this herd mentality. Even if we don’t want to ask and know what is happening in someone else’s life, the societal discussions and our atmosphere at home makes us do it. We ask because we feel we should as “society does”. There are so many things that we personally do not believe in, deep in our hearts, but we are so worried that if we don’t, people will add us to their black sheep list.

What are the weirdest, funniest questions you have been asked about being single?

I don’t know if it is weird because it is more obvious… I have been asked about my sexuality and my interest in other gender because there seems to be no other reason why I don’t want to get married.

What strengths do you find in the power of being single?

Everything! I like not being tied to one person, I love my freedom, I love coming home to just my bed and where I can just be! Life is so much simpler, drama free and sorted without a spouse. I love my own company so I am good.

Have you ever had those weak moments when you wished you weren’t single?

I miss a partner when I feel lazy and I need to get things done. As far as love is concerned, I get it from my friends and even dogs. My pups love me unconditionally. As far as sex is concerned, I get enough.

Did past relationship experiences play a role in you choosing singlehood? What made you realise or decide that you no longer want a partner?

Many believe that a past relationship gone sour can ruin someone for life but that is not the case with me. However, it was someone else’ bad experience that I learnt a lesson from. I realised that whether it is love or arranged, nothing guarantees eternal bliss. Those days I was new to Buddhism too and I channeled it all into spirituality and finding myself. So it all played a role and today I am happy. I live for myself, my parents and I am content.

A few pieces of advice for women and men out there who are contemplating singlehood, trying not to fall under the pressure of “society”.

Go ahead and live your life. You should know what you want and that is all you need. As long as you are clear, you should take your time to live the life you want. After all, this is your life. Your life, your rules! Just have a good savings account for your future.

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